Gay American

Archive for January, 2011

Are you one of those same sex couples who don’t enjoy and can’t tell the world how happy you are with your partner due to the mock of others? Even though same sex couples may not yet take pleasure in full freedom under the law and in every state, same sex marriages, by the nature and character of the couples, do enjoy a certain freedom. Freedom from the traditions and expectations that so many opposite sex couples may find their selves embroiled in. Gone, for the most part, are the meddling parents-in-law. Gone is the need to invite bad tempered uncle, merely because he’s your grandmother’s favorite. Gay marriage is to some extent, a factual measure of what a wedding should be about. Two persons who despite many odds, have found a soul mate, and desire to share the joy of their emotion, and that recognition, with others with whom they have an emotional attachment.

This freedom from tradition spans across many of the typical wedding elements from the ceremony itself, to the vows, to the style of “dress” or tuxedo, to what you consider the most important and important symbol of all – the exchange of two “circles without end” – the wedding bands. You are two diverse people, and while you may have very different tastes in dress or decorating, there are some things that bring you together. Your wedding bands are the signifiers of being together. Consequently, they should have something in common. This is not to say that they need to have the indistinguishable pattern or finish, but they should have something in common visually and be comprised of the same metal, and one final thought for same sex couples. Unless you really crave to go the ultra-traditional route, be happy that you’re free of the drama of the engagement ring, unlike so many opposite-sex couples, because while the engagement ring is just representative of a promise, the wedding bands are the right signifier of your imperative commitment.

It is really vital to know if you do really each other, and willing to fight your relationship from the crowd.  It is not your fault if you fall to same sex, what matter is that your heart is clean and true, and you did not hurt any feelings.